My father died peacefully in his sleep on a Saturday afternoon, 22 January 2022. I felt relieved and I felt angry. I also felt sad. I felt sad that I felt angry and relieved and that my mother didn’t leave when she should have. I felt sad that I lost a father, who was sometimes […]
Growing up with domestic violence
This blog started as a journey of recovery from emotional abuse in my marriage, but what lies beneath is the story of a child who never healed or recovered from the domestic violence she experienced while growing up. Your parents are meant to protect and nurture you and show you how to live well independently. […]
Not too close
People stuff is tricky and I inevitably get it wrong. Most often at my own expense. I get too close, not close enough, say the wrong thing, not say anything at all and, most importantly, I overthink it all. I thought I had it all figured out in my work relationships, but I forgot that […]
Happiness of moments
Life is made up of moments. Everyone who practices mindfulness will tell you that. Eckhart Tolle teaches us that. There is only ever now and now and now. Happiness is noticing and appreciating those moments. Like the last rose of the season. Like sitting with my coffee in the winter sun on the outdoor couch, […]
Living on empty
We were driving home from my younger son’s psych appointment the other night and, on a whim, I asked him, “So, how ARE you supposed to manage anxiety? What does your psych tell you to do?” And then I nearly burst into tears, because until that moment I hadn’t realised just what a mess I […]
