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8 tips for when you hate being a mother

9 May 2012 By Dorothy 1 Comment

When I first noticed that my post about hating motherhood was (and still is) my most popular post, I didn’t know how to feel.

At first, I was appalled that this was how people “saw” my blog.  As a “negative” space.

Then, seeing the search terms by which people found that post, I realised just how many others felt like I did and felt overwhelmed by their need to connect.  Imagine the emotional space you would be in when searching for “I hate being a mum”.  I felt grateful that I was able to provide that connection.

I also noticed the comments.  Comments which thank me for my honesty and express gratitude and relief at finding someone else who feels like they do.

All comments are supportive, even from those who have never experienced those feelings and those who never had the option of motherhood.

Lately, there have been quite a few from mothers who seem at breaking point, not knowing where to turn to for help.  I worry about those mums.  I felt the need to edit my post and include a plea for them to seek professional help, if their feelings of despair are persistent.

I am not an expert in mental health, parenting or work/life balance.  Quite the opposite.

I am only an expert in myself.  I know what works for me.  I know how to help myself.

I hope that these eight tips help you, too, or at least give you some direction.

1.  Accept your feelings.

2.  Get professional help.

3.  Time out for you.

4.  Exercise.

5.  Socialise and Connect.

6.  Meditate.

7. Practice mindfulness.

8.  Laugh.


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I've been blogging since 2008 and I do it because it keeps me sane.If I didn't blog, my head would explode. If you like your blogs sugar-coated and pretty looking then this is not for you. I write about life as a solo parent dealing with mental illness and recovering from long term emotional abuse. I live with two boy-children and three cats and I like wine. A lot.

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  1. Anna Bileci says

    23 June 2013 at 8:20 am

    Thank you for your blogs. I read the three about hating motherhood. Lately I just don’t feel like I can function and like my life wasn’t supposed to turn out this way. I have the most amazing 8 yo but I resent motherhood and always think how life can be different withou him. Right now he is staying with my parents till I can figure out what is too going on. Thanks for your advice
    Anna

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