8 tips for when you hate being a mother

When I first noticed that my post about hating motherhood was (and still is) my most popular post, I didn’t know how to feel.

At first, I was appalled that this was how people “saw” my blog.  As a “negative” space.

Then, seeing the search terms by which people found that post, I realised just how many others felt like I did and felt overwhelmed by their need to connect.  Imagine the emotional space you would be in when searching for “I hate being a mum”.  I felt grateful that I was able to provide that connection.

I also noticed the comments.  Comments which thank me for my honesty and express gratitude and relief at finding someone else who feels like they do.

All comments are supportive, even from those who have never experienced those feelings and those who never had the option of motherhood.

Lately, there have been quite a few from mothers who seem at breaking point, not knowing where to turn to for help.  I worry about those mums.  I felt the need to edit my post and include a plea for them to seek professional help, if their feelings of despair are persistent.

I am not an expert in mental health, parenting or work/life balance.  Quite the opposite.

I am only an expert in myself.  I know what works for me.  I know how to help myself.

I hope that these eight tips help you, too, or at least give you some direction.

1.  Accept your feelings.

2.  Get professional help.

3.  Time out for you.

4.  Exercise.

5.  Socialise and Connect.

6.  Meditate.

7. Practice mindfulness.

8.  Laugh.