So some weeks ago a blogger had the nerve to write a post commenting about the large numbers of bloggers writing about depression. In fact she called depression the new black. How dare she!
I thought her post was spot on. Yet a whole bunch of bloggers took offence at her post and began passively aggressively referring to everything as “the new black”. Constantly. Frankly, it’s getting boring.
Is depression funny? Actually, it’s just about as funny as anything else that people make jokes about. Things that I find offensive and in poor taste. Things I simply turn away from and move on, rather than attack the source.
Having lived with depression for thirty years, yes, I find it hilarious. I make jokes about it, because crying about it is so 1990s.
Joking about depression, or any other mental illness, is a coping mechanism for those of us who live with it. Is anyone else allowed to joke, or comment about it? Why not? Yes, some will find it offensive, but why not just walk away? Why keep flogging a dead horse?
Yes, I thought it was uncanny that such a large number of bloggers suddenly came out and acknowledged their struggle with depression. With some, I saw it coming, with others, I didn’t. Yes, it did feel like suddenly depression was “cool”. That’s because I can laugh about my illness and about the ridiculous world of blogging I choose to live in.
Do I think that people write about depression because it’s trendy? Hell, no!
They write about it because finally it’s becoming OK to talk about mental illness. They write about it because it’s part of their lives, of who they are. They write about it because so many people suffer from it and never say a word. For every blogger that writes about mental illness, there are probably five that don’t. But reach into their medicine cabinet and I’ll bet you will find some anti-depressants.
Is depression a blogger’s curse? No. It’s a society curse, the reasons for which are many and varied and which I’m not qualified to write about.
We are writing about depression not because it’s trendy, but because we trust our readers enough to have a conversation about it. We have matured enough as individuals to not hide behind images of perfect lives on display for the public, while we quiver in tears in a dark corner.
So while it might seem like depression is the new black from the sheer number of bloggers writing about it, let me tell you that depression IS black and that nobody gets it just to be trendy.
It is interesting/notable that so many have written about it of late. It is a curious phenomenon and when you’re one of those who have been living with it for decades, it can certainly seem that it is suddenly “cool”.
Which should make me the coolest chick on the block.