This morning I woke up and as soon as some semblance of conciousness hit my brain, the negative thought loops started, without any encouragement from me. So I made them stop. And then I made them stop again.
I stretched, the way I read somewhere you should stretch to make waking and getting up easier. Then I stretched some more and focused on my body. I stopped my thoughts again and said, “No, not today, I’m not doing this today.”
I got up, I had a shower. Every time the thinking started, I focused on the soap, on my skin, on the water, on the warmth.
As I was getting dressed, again the thoughts. Again I stopped them. Pull on one sock, pull on the other sock. Planned my strategy for the kids.
In the family room, I opened the blinds. I greeted the monsters. I gathered their clothes from the drying racks, turned off the TV and asked them to follow me to their room and get dressed. They groaned, well, one did, but they did.
Once there, I explained that if they were not dressed by the time I was ready to go I would physically pick them up as they were and put them in the car. There would be no further reminders. I explained all their clothes had to be on.
One got dressed immediately. The other, left alone in his room, followed shortly. Breakfast wishes were expressed without procrastination. Children attended breakfast as soon as it was ready.
It seems that a soldierly approach to children management is what is needed here right now. We were ready and out the door in record time. No whingeing, no delaying tactics, just action.
And no constant negative ruminating in my head.
Once in the car, I
annoyed entertained them by loudly reciting spider-themed nursery rhymes all the way to creche and then school. That made me happy. And made them happy (although slightly confused at their mother’s strange and embarrassing behaviour). There were big squishy hugs and smiles all round as I dropped them off.
So, at least for the last three hours, I’ve refused to give in to those awful negative “mind viruses” that have taken residence in my head. I do not like them. I do not want them.
It’s not even 10 am yet. Wish me luck…
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