The Cycle of Domestic Violence
Several people told me. I didn’t believe them. All the definitions and behaviours I read about just did not fit in.
“Violent” would have been the last word to describe my ex.
Except, as I wrote before, violence is not always physical.
I saw a version of this diagram in a support group:
That’s when it really hit me. I cried.
I wished I could have seen the cycle I was in, years ago. I was so blinded by the need to be with someone, to be loved, that I just lived with it and accepted it as a “normal” part of my life. I became numb to the abuse.
You should never become numb to the abuse.
You are important and valuable.
No-one has the right to ridicule you, blame you, or diminish you in any way just for being who you are. We can talk about our behaviours, we can talk about responsibilities, expectations and money, when we are in a relationship of any kind.
If you cannot talk about it and you feel bad when you’re around the person who “loves” you, then, it is my humble opinion, that you are caught in the cycle.